I'm a single mommy of a vivacious and intelligent 9 year old girl. I've been on this journey with very little assistance from her father. He's been in and out of her life every since she was born. Most of the time I could care less he's there, but on rare occasions I get infuriated because my daughter doesn't have the bond with her father the way I have with my father. On top of that, I always given him the benefit of the doubt and let a lot of shit slide. I'm upset because even though he and I never grew into a relationship, I thought the friendship we had before we had sex was strong and we were still friends. I thought I was a safe space for him to speak freely and honestly about his circumstances that may prevent him from being attentive to our daughter without feelings be involved. Lie detector test determined that was a lie. At this point, all I want him to do is at the very least call or text his daughter. Now, he is currently blocked on her phone (her choice) because she doesn't know him and doesn't know how to feel towards him. I respect her decision and I think it's very mature for her to recognize her feelings and set boundaries to make sure he doesn't come in and out of her life on his time. She wants it on her time. That's something I'm working on now. I still get upset from time to time but my daughter tells me that there's no point and that his absence doesn't affect her.